For this unit, we were to complete the universal loving kindness meditation exercise and the integral assessment exercise. The universal loving kindness meditation exercise was something similar to one that I have completed or tried to complete in the past. Previously, I was unable to get the right feeling for the exercise. In this attempt, I was able to do the exercise with no problem. The only difficulty I had with this exercise was remembering what I was to say. Once I got over this difficulty, I had no problems with this exercise. I think the difference between the two attempts was with the wording and not the actual exercises. In the beginning of this exercise, my mind was wandering all over the place. It wasn’t until I started repeating the phrases that I was able to focus on the task at hand. When I began to focus on other individuals, I began to feel a warmness come over my body. It made me feel caring thoughts about people in places that I didn’t even know. I had a helping and compassionate feeling come over me and this lasted for the rest of the day.
With the second exercise – the integral assessment – I identified several areas that I needed to work on. One area that I needed to focus on was my interpersonal area. The conflict I have in this area revolves around some of my co-workers. My conflict in this area has to deal with trying to help people that don’t want my help. For me, I am looking at the future, but they are looking at the present. Through the assessment, I learned that I no longer have anger towards these individuals, but rather a sense of sorrow. With a sense of sorrow, I think I can be able to help these individuals more with out the aspect of anger towards them.
Another area that I identified through my assessment was my psychospiritual area. In this area, I have realized that I have never developed an oneness with myself. My mind and body have always been two separate sectors. Although I go through the motions of being a very spiritual person, I haven’t felt it within my body as I once did. Without feeling this, my spirituality means nothing to me when in fact it really does.
I think by concentrating on developing these two areas of my life, I will begin to develop wholeness within my mind and body. Although these areas are different, they actually are inter-related. If I develop psychospiritual flourishing, my interpersonal relationships will flourish. If my interpersonal relationships are mended, I will be able to develop my psychospiritual area, as well. To start to repair these areas, I will begin to work on my mind-body-spirit connections with various exercises that I have learned in class. I plan to use yoga and meditation to develop these areas. The reason I chose these two was because they were very portable exercises for me. I can do them in my hotel room at any hour of the day or night. I can also meditate in various areas (like airports) by blocking out the chatter. By the use of yoga and meditation, I can start to develop my psychospiritual area of my life. For me, this seems the most critical area at this time. Once I begin to develop this area, the interpersonal area of my life should start to resolve.
This has been an eye opening unit for me. I normally just read the exercises and do them, but with this one, I really got to assess the problem areas in my life. I would suggest to anyone to try these if they have never done them. I would also suggest that if you have done them in the past that you should take some time and do them again.
Hello Carol,
ReplyDeleteI liked reading your blog. Great job. I agree, with the first exercise, remembering the words and what to say was a little difficult. I found this exercise to be very repetitive which made it hard for me. I think that you chose great things to work on. With trying to help your coworkers that don't want your help, I would say to just leave them be. This is usually what I do when I have anger towards my coworkers, because it saves me from accidently saying something out of anger. I also think its important to have a mind-body connection. Like you said yoga and meditation can help. Take care.
Jamie
Thanks Jamie. I felt the first exercise was similar to praying the rosary. I think if we would have memorized the phrases better like with praying the rosary, we would have seen how much easier it would be. I really like doing these exercises. I am getting a tremendous amount of benefit from them. I just spent two weeks with a co-worker in Europe who was having problems with relaxation. I told her about what we were studying and had her try one of the mp3s. It made a believer out of her in an instant! I plan on continuing with this even after this class is done!
ReplyDeleteCarol
Hi Carol,
ReplyDeleteI do not know what you do for a living but I can empathize. Recently, I was trying to help a younger person get on with her life. She could not afford to live on her own because her income was so meager so my husband and I offered her a room in our home. We were under the impression that she was willing to take the next step to get out of her situation. To make a long story short, taking the next step was far from her mind. She was just going for the ride. It was frustrating but there was nothing else we can do to help her so we asked her to leave.
Like you, I felt a little angry. Then I realized the situation was beyond my control and there was nothing else I can do to make a difference in her life. Thus, I have to let any emotion related to this event go. There is nothing for me to be sad about. The lesson I learned from this event is, I will continue to extend my hand to help others. It won’t be the last time.
Melanie,
ReplyDeleteI know that what you are telling me is the truth and I should just feel that I gave it my best and it is her choice. I think I just have to remember the old saying that you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink it. I also will continue to help those who want the help, but I am no longer going to take it personally if they are not willing to accept it. Thanks for the inspiration.